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In June I co-hosted The Flow Game Host Reunion, a gathering of Flow Game Hosts from around the world. We found strength and inspiration in being together, but more than that, a commitment to leaning into each other to offer more.

The Flow Game is a play...

Notice the question I’m asking isn’t “Is disruption a comfortable thing?” or “Is disruption an easy thing?” Nope. That’s not the question. This question is aimed at looking into the nature of disruption, and considering that experiencing, it might not be a binary construct.

My friend Phil Cass, who...

This the third post in the TENDERNESS series

Many people have told me they feel "in the gap" right now, sure that something new is coming, but not sure exactly what comes next. One person told me they feel the energy in many associations they are connected to, which are all trying to do good work a...

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In July I was part of the first Art of Hosting in Armenia. It was aimed at Russian speakers. The callers had a deep wish to create new ground across different groups through participatory practice. They talked about their desire to help the circle "unbu...

This is the first in the TENDERNESS series.

It has been awhile since I've reflected in public. My last newsletter back in March focused on edges, indeed, I've faced a few recently -- in myself and others. That means now I need to put the focus on what to do once we've gone over the edge.

Over the ...

I still remember my last horseback ride in New Zealand. I was working for the New Zealand Tourism Board at the time, so I got offered a number of experiences in the hopes that I would continue to promote them.

I jumped off a perfectly useful cliff in Queenstown tandem parapenting and scared mysel...

If you're anything like me, you will have listened to at least one forecast about 2026 so far. Whether it was an energetic update, a business forecast, doomscrolling or the weather, we're all curious about what this new year will bring. Here's my personal prediction for 2026, and I'm telling you and...

This week when I popped into the grocery store I found a crowd got there before me. The lines were so long for the self check out that I joined one of the ordinary checkout lines.

We inched along and I finally saw why. The cashier was a much older man, but obviously new at the job. He was turning e...

During the Art of Hosting training in Innsbruck last week, someone posted a session in Open Space that really caught my eye -- What does potential need to become visible? 

You might also ask it like this: What is needed in me/us to be able to notice the potential that is hidden in every moment, e...

What does "liminal space" and what are its gifts?  

Heather Plett was our Fireside Conversation guest in THE STORY DOJO this month. What she said about her discoveries around liminal space stayed with me and caused me to think deeply. 

She began by introducing linear liminality. This is what most ...

Although we like to think of life as one big story, in reality, every human being is an intersection of stories. And they're all going on at the same time! 

There are stories in your life right at the beginning. New things starting, new adventures to have, new experiences and relationships about to...

The other day I accompanied my girlfriend to get the shopping. The organic shop they frequent has a chilled veggie section and I find it quite cold, so I was waiting outside the door with the rest of the groceries.

I happened to find myself standing in front of some shelves full of nuts and beans. ...